Funeral Resources

What Not to Do at a Funeral

Don’t Be Late

It’s best to show up to a funeral 10 minutes early, but if you think the service will be crowded, show up even earlier to nab a seat. If you do come late, enter quietly through a side aisle and if there happens to be a procession, wait outside until it’s done.

Don’t Just Sit Anywhere

Be mindful that generally the first few rows of the church or venue are reserved for family members or close friends. If you’re neither of those, it is best to sit towards the middle or the back.

Don’t Allow Children to be a Disturbance

If you feel they might be, then leave them with a sitter. But, if the deceased meant something to them, it’s a good idea to invite them to share in the experience.

Don’t Leave Your Cell Phone On

Be respectful. Silence your phone If you think you may be tempted to use your phone during the service, leave your cell phone in the car.

Don’t Neglect to Step into the Receiving Line

Simply say how sorry you are for their loss, offer up your own name and how you knew the deceased.

Don’t Feel You Have to View the Deceased

If there is an open casket, act according to what is comfortable to you.

Don’t Be Afraid to Laugh

Remembering their loved one fondly can mean sharing a funny story or fond memory. Just be mindful of the time and place; if others are sharing, then you may do so too. There is simply no good reason you shouldn’t talk about the deceased in a happy, positive tone.

Do Keep in Touch

After the service, remember to continue to offer support and love to the bereaved. The next few months are a time when grieving friends and relatives could need you most. Let them know that your support did not end with the funeral.

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