Funeral Resources

Funeral Etiquette 

Sometimes it can be hard to find the right words when encountering something as final as death. Simply saying “I’m sorry for your loss” is often enough.  If you’re attending the service, offer your condolences in person or share a story or special memory about the deceased. If you can’t be there in person, send flowers, a card or leave a message for the family on our obituaries page.

It doesn’t matter if it’s flowers, a home-cooked meal, a donation to a charity (oftentimes the family will have a preferred charity) or a commitment of service to the family; as always, “it’s the thought that counts.” Make sure to provide the family with a signed card, so they know what gift was given, and by whom.

Sometimes the deceased has specified the dress code; ‘no black’ is a common request. If you are unsure of the family’s wishes, dress conservatively, and avoid bright colours.

When you sign the register at the funeral home, be sure to include your name, and your relationship to the deceased: co-worker, student, gym buddy or casual acquaintance from the golf club.  The register is something the family will have forever, and they will appreciate knowing who you are and how you knew their loved one in years to come.

Depending on your relationship with the family, you may choose to stay in touch by telephone or online.  It can sometimes be awkward for you to do so, but for most people, the grieving doesn’t end with a funeral.

 The grieving process can be a long and difficult journey, so don’t just walk out of their lives after the service. Let the family know you’re there for them during the days, weeks, and months following the death of their loved one.